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Dianne Edna "Deb" Bender

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Dianne Edna "Deb" Bender

December 21, 1950 - September 8, 2025

It is with deep sadness that we announce the peaceful passing of Deb Bender at the age of 74 on Sept. 8th at Ed’s House Hospice in Cobourg with family by her side.
Born Dianne Edna Bowerman on December 21, 1950, to Violet and Ralph Bowerman, she grew up in Belleville Ontario. Deb married the boy next door in 1973 and enjoyed 52 years of love and laughter with Terry, years that included hosting car rallys, poker runs, and game night parties at home. Deb was known for her love of baking and cooking, trying new recipes from her extensive library of cookbooks. She was loved for her warm and welcoming nature, her intuitive sense of humour and her positive outlook on life. She had so many friends from all walks of her life with whom she enjoyed spending time.
Deb will be missed by her loving husband Terry, twin sister Vianne Ninness (John), brother Phil Bowerman, brothers-in-law Allan Bender and Tom Bender, Sister-in-law Bonnie Bender, and nieces and nephews who loved her dearly.
She was predeceased by her parents Violet and Ralph Bowerman, with whom she shall be interred beside at Mount Lawn Memorial Gardens, Whitby.
Long-time member of Cobourg Legion Branch 133, where she enjoyed meeting and sharing time with friends and family and winning at the odd meat draw.
In memoriam contributions may be made to Ed’s House Northumberland Hospice, Royal Canadian Legion Branch 133 Cobourg or a charity of your choice.
There will be a Celebration of Life at a later date.

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Dan Besso - September 12, 2025

Terry, we were very sorry to hear your wife passed this week. Our thoughts are with you during these difficult times. If there is anything I can do please let me know.

Catherine Provost - September 12, 2025

Terry...I'am so sorry to hear about Deb' s passing. She will always be in your heart, with all the loving memories you both shared together.

Karla Hewton - September 12, 2025

Terry & family thinking of you at this time of loss. I cherish the memories I was fortunate to share with such a beautiful soul. Debbie's laughter and smile brightened this world.

Robin Dennis - September 11, 2025

Terry I was so saddened to hear of Deb’s passing. I remember meeting her many years ago and felt her warm and kind nature right away. She was a nice lady! Stay well cousin. Will be praying for you all.🙏🏻❤️ Robin

Dave and Siobhan McCall - September 11, 2025

Terry, thinking of you at this difficult time. We know you had so many wonderful years together, and hope that now your memories will provide comfort to you

Nancy West - September 11, 2025

So sorry to hear about your loss Debbie was a very nice Lady Nancy

Kim Hekl - September 11, 2025

So, sorry to hear about the loss of Deb..my heart goes out to you during this time of grief. Knowing that the family is all coming together to help you during this time is comforting. Much love to you cuz and big hugs. Take care and hopefully one day our paths will cross.

Pearl Pidlubny - September 11, 2025

I’m so sorry Terry. I know how close the two of you were , and you will miss her a lot. Hope to see you next summer if you’re feeling up to it ! Take care, and remember you do have family close by, lean on them !

Wayne McKinnon - September 11, 2025

So sorry to hear of Debbie’s passing. Our condolences and thoughts are with you at this time.

Michelle Sinclair - September 11, 2025

So sorry for your loss Terry. Deb was a wonderful lady with a beautiful smile. It was so nice to see you both on a regular basis the last 6months. RIP Deb.

Terry and Eleanor Stanley - September 11, 2025

Terry, so sad to hear about your loss. Please accept our condolences.

Nora Brooks - September 10, 2025

Love and condolences to you, Terry, and to her family and yours. The last thing Deb said to me was "Raise a glass to us"... And so I shall. Much love to her memory. Nora

Linda McIntosh - September 10, 2025

Heartfelt sympathy to you Terry and your families. Enjoyed some fun times with you both and may the wonderful memories you have with Deb help on the difficult days ahead.

Wendy English - September 10, 2025

Terry , I am so sorry for your sadness and loss . My sincere condolences to you , your family and your friends at this difficult time. Wendy

Carol Ann Heffernan - September 10, 2025

Terry, We are so sorry for your loss. Deb was a lovely person. We will never forget the one car rally we participated in - so much fun! Sincere condolences Tom & Carol Ann

Cyndy Hewton - September 10, 2025

My heart goes out to you and your family during this difficult time.   Debbie was a true friend, we shared so many great times and she will be missed very much.

Steve Tripp - September 10, 2025

So sorry to hear of Deb’s passing, we have fun memories of Terry & Deb, years ago, please accept our condolences, RIP Deb !!!

lorenzo barricalla - September 10, 2025

Sorry to hear the sad news about Deb. My sincere condolences.

Cindy & Martin Blower - September 10, 2025

We are so sorry to hear of Deb’s passing. We remember having some great times, those car rallies were so fun! Our thoughts are with you Terry and your family.

David and Vera Blower - September 10, 2025

Terry Thinking of you and we are so sorry to hear about Deb. We have fond memories of Deb, the times spent together in years past. She will be missed.

Judy Elliott - September 10, 2025

Terry it makes me sad to be reading this announcement, I feel so bad for you and Deb’s family. Knowing Deb put up such a valiant fight and is now pain free and at peace is a blessing. Please don’t be afraid to reach out to friends and family. Keep your happy loving memories close it does help. Thinking of you and knowing this long road ahead is a rough one. Take care my friend. I must tell you I did smile looking at Deb’s beautiful face in the announcement. ❤️

Stan and Jean Czyczyro - September 10, 2025

Our condolences Terry. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and family.

Karen and Dave Tickle - September 10, 2025

Terry nobody has the right words to express to you at this difficult time. memories are what we have, lots of fun times, like the meat draws at the old legion parties and the car rallys were so much fun or when deb did the cooking she always out did herself on the food and treats, so many good times. thinking of you and your family at this sad time

Carolyn Campbell - September 10, 2025

So very sorry for your loss Terry. Deb was always so kind and considerate.

Linda Bevan - September 10, 2025

Terry and Family. My sincere condolences on Deb’s passing. She fought a courageous battle, now she is pain free. Rest peacefully Deb.

Lisa Hughes - September 10, 2025

So happy Deb and I were able to have such a good visit just last week. We had planned another but it wasn't to be. She was looking forward to seeing her Mom on her journey...I hope it happened. Condolences to Terry and the family. Lisa

Delkie Curtis - September 10, 2025

Terry. So sorry for your loss. Delkie and Linda.

Debbie Hackney - September 10, 2025

May your loving memories carry you through this sad time Debbie Hackney ....(George)

Fred Hamelink - September 10, 2025

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the family at this most difficult time.

Don O'Neill - September 10, 2025

Terry: My condolences on the passing of Deb .... She was a valued employee in my Finance Department at Northumberland County in the early 1990's. In the years since 1995, I often thought about the two of you. Rest In Peace Deb

Brenda Rylott - September 9, 2025

So sorry for your loss, Terry. Cherish the memories.

Sue Brown - September 9, 2025

Terry. My thoughts and prayers are with you through this difficult time. Cherish the memories. Sue

Sherry Gibson - September 9, 2025

So sorry for your loss Terry.

Brian and Colette McIntosh - September 9, 2025

Terry. So very sorry to hear of Deb’s passing. Our deepest condolences. Brian and Colette

Bill & Anita Nichol - September 9, 2025

Terry, Our sincere condolences on Deb’s passing.

Murray Thomson - September 9, 2025

Sad time. Thoughts are with you.

Billy and Carole - September 9, 2025

So sorry to hear about Debbie long time memories on Merideth crescent and at legion functions god bless.

Jan Bradford - September 9, 2025

Terry we were very sad to hear of Deb’s passing. Please accept our deepest condolences. Steve and Jan

Brenda Keller - September 9, 2025

Terry I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to all of Debbie’s family. Worked with Debbie for several years and will always remember her smile.

ben burd - September 9, 2025

Sorry to hear this Terry sincere condolences to you and the family

Gayle Brayton - September 9, 2025

So sorry for your loss, thoughts and prayers are with the family.

Rick McBride - September 9, 2025

Very sorry to hear of your loved ones passing. Cherish the memories.

Katherine Greer - September 9, 2025

Terry, I’m so very sorry, she was so sweet and kind, my heart is with you at this time

Dennis Parsons - September 9, 2025

So sorry to hear ,sending my condolences

Gail Haughton - September 9, 2025

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I know you two were incredibly close. I hope that your wonderful memories together will be a comfort during this heartbreak. Losing someone close to you causes pain for which there are no words. I'm so sorry.

Sue Houston - September 9, 2025

Terry, I’m so sorry to hear of Deb’s passing. My condolences to you and your family.

Jack & Paulette Herriot - September 9, 2025

Sending our deepest condolences on Debbie’s passing.

Bill Graham, Colleen Moore & Brian Graham - September 9, 2025

Our deepest condolences Terry on Deb's passing. We have fond memories of our time with you and Deb. From the times Deb patiently waited with Mom and us kids at the Chalet for you and Dad to get back from "checking cows", to the endless events at your house to the baby shower you and Deb hosted for us. Deb always outdid herself on the food, planning and hosting of so many events and we will cherish those memories. Farewell Deb, you will be remembered for your smile and deeply missed by all that knew you.

Dave & Cathy Edwards - September 9, 2025

Terry we are so sorry to hear of Debbie's passing. Cherish your memories they will help you through this. Take care. Dave & Cathy Edwards

Bob Taylor - September 9, 2025

So sorry to hear this news. Terry, please accept my sincere condolences in Deb’s passing.

Shelley and Ken - September 9, 2025

Terry and family. Our heartfelt condolences. Deb was a wonderful woman and will be sorely missed.

Doug Mann - September 9, 2025

Terry and Family: Condolences on the loss of a very special person in your lives. Doug

Tom & Sharon Kaye - September 9, 2025

Terry, please accept our deepest sympathies on the loss of Deb. She was a wonderful person whom we had many fun times with.

Jeanette and Jim Puddy - September 9, 2025

Terry...sorry to hear of Dianne s passing..our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time...

Monty Flindall - September 9, 2025

So very sorry to hear of this news, my deepest condolences for your loss!

Pete Fisher - September 9, 2025

So sorry for your loss Terry.

JoAnn Kropf-Hedley - September 9, 2025

You have my sorrows. I worked with Deb at the county and always enjoyed her company and our conversations .

Linda Flindall - September 9, 2025

Terry, so very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Sincerely Linda Flindall

Diane Cane - September 9, 2025

Terry, I’m so so sorry to hear of Deb’s passing - she was a wonderful, kind and funny friend. It was my pleasure knowing her over the years. Sending hugs to you 😥

Tammy Elder - September 9, 2025

Terry and Family I am sending my deepest condolences on the passing of Dianne. My thoughts are with you.

John And Susan Davison - September 9, 2025

Terry and family our sincere condolences.

Ross & Susan Dudley - September 9, 2025

Terry & family Sincere condolences to you all at this difficult time.

Andrew and Myonne Allan - September 9, 2025

Sorry to hear of the loss of your wife. Our thoughts are with you at this sad time.

Joanne Hall - September 9, 2025

Im very sad to hear this. Debbie was such a kind, friendly soul. She will be missed. My sincerest condolences to Terry and family.

Ron Taylor - September 9, 2025

Terry so sorry to hear of Deb’s passing.Thinking of you at this difficult time.My condolences..

Jim, Nancy and Katie Maguire . - September 9, 2025

Very sorry for your loss Terry. Nancy and I often talk about the platoon shuffle board parties we so enjoyed at your home. Debbie was always a great hostess and food always the best. Many memories to treasure.

David Thompson - September 9, 2025

So very sorry Terry to learn of your wife’s passing. Please accept my deepest condolences at this most difficult time.

Maggie and Graham Mckessick - September 9, 2025

Terry, we send our sincerest condolences to you and the family. Rest in peace my friend. ❤️

Paul & Sherry Sweet - September 9, 2025

Terry Our deepest condolences on your loss. Paul & Sherry Sweet

Brenda McDonald - September 9, 2025

Terry, so sorry to hear of Deb's passing. My deepest condolences to you and your family

Dave Cromlish - September 9, 2025

Terry, very sorry to hear of this very sad news. Our most sincere condolences my friend. Dave and Rosie

Bruce-Jane Morton - September 9, 2025

So sorry for your loss Terry. Our Condolences

Sharon and Ken Hammill - September 9, 2025

Terry . So sorry to hear of the passing of Deb. Condolences to you and the family.

Dan & Syl Lloyd - September 9, 2025

Terry, We are sending our deepest condolences to you and your family, during this difficult time.