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Annie Martha “Hilda” Bryan-Seet was born in Kilcoran, Conna, Co. Cork, Ireland on March 29, 1940. She was the daughter of Frederick Charles Bryan and Janie Bryan (née Hill); sister of Tossie (Kitty), Freddie (Florence), Cecil (Maureen), Frankie (Rupert), Lily (George), and Hilliard (Clodagh); devoted wife of the late Seng-Moh Seet; loving mother of Jonathan (Michelle), Bryan (Diana), and Bruce; and cherished proud grandmother of Ethan, Kaia, Ruby, Leah, and Marshall; honoured sister-in-law to Poh-Thiam and Poh-Lian; beloved Aunt of many nieces and nephews on both the Bryan and Seet side of the family. Hilda passed away peacefully on December 8, 2023, surrounded by her loving family.
Career
A fiercely independent woman with a calling to become a Registered Nurse from the age of 14, Hilda long promoted health and wellness, advocating regular exercise, healthy eating, and abstaining from alcohol and smoking with vigour. As a fearless young nursing student in England, she organized a field trip to descend into the Chesterfield Coal Mines to educate herself and fellow nurses about the difficult, harsh and toxic conditions that their coal mining patients worked in. Having empathy for and being patient-centric in care-giving was a theme throughout her career. She also worked as an Operating Room nurse in England and Toronto (Mt Sinai Hospital, St Michael’s Hospital), working as a scrub nurse for some of the first open heart surgeries in the 60s, later becoming a midwife, and eventually a geriatric nurse at Streamway Villa in Cobourg, Ontario for the last 20 years of her career. She retired at age 64.
Giving Back
Throughout her life, Hilda practiced various forms of philanthropy and volunteerism in her own unique ways. As a child, she saved her money and mailed it away to various charities. She continued donating to causes throughout her life in some form or another. In recent years, she donated three park benches found on Cobourg Beach’s boardwalk to recognize her late husband as well as to celebrate the public service of all educators, firefighters, and police. Hilda was an active member of St. Peter's church in the 1970s and 1980s as a chorister and organizer of the "Junior Youth Group" that provided a space for youth to play games and sports in a safe and supervised setting.
Hilda was a strong advocate for the elderly, writing letters to politicians to raise awareness of ageism and emphasizing the value of elders. She also had a vision for a fitness park for the elderly, garnering a petition of more than 1000 supportive signatures and presenting this concept to the Cobourg town council (which her family hopes to make a future reality!) Along with galvanizing support from others, she also anonymously donated several dozen iPod Shuffles to various long-term care facilities as part of the "Music and Memory" movement, a non-profit initiative that helps the elderly with cognitive and physical challenges to find renewed meaning, vitality and connection through personalized music playlists.
Hilda didn’t formally profess to be a feminist but long spoke up and advocated for women to be treated with equality, dignity and respect. As a manifestation of these beliefs, she had plans for a project to erect a statue honoring women in business to complement the "businessman" statue in downtown Cobourg.
She believed in the power and importance of music, providing classical music lessons for her three sons from an early age, paving the way for lifelong music-making. Hilda was proud of Jonathan, a singer-songwriter in Toronto with several albums of original music; Bruce, who played violin in the Northumberland Symphony Orchestra in his youth and is currently an active fiddler on the global Irish music scene; and of Bryan, who performed a 14-month weekly residency in Las Vegas and today fosters an active musical community at his current residencies at popular open-mic piano bars in the San Francisco Bay Area. Hilda’s support of music is one of her sons’ most treasured legacies, with a ripple effect that lives on.
Hobbies & Pastimes
Influenced by close family friend and surrogate parent, Michael “Mick” Keohane, Hilda became an adept gardener with a profound appreciation of nature. Her beautiful, lush gardens and photo collection of plants and creatures great and small are comforting reminders of her passion. Also inspired by Mick, Hilda developed a singular holiday decorating style that made every season memorable.
Hilda was a versatile cook who blended traditional Irish dishes from her rural upbringing with Asian influences learned from Seng-Moh’s parents during her early married years in Singapore; an early fusion-cuisine practitioner.
Growing up on a farm, animals and pets were an important part of Hilda’s life; from dogs, Ebony, Newfoundlander Mathilda, and her Belgian Malinois, Kassi; to cats, Felix, Bell, Tiger, Burt, Silver, and her current devoted cat, Karmabelle.
Family Archivist & Writings
Starting in the mid-2000s, Hilda grew into the role of family archivist, producing several hundred-page tomes of family history packed with stories, images and genealogical information - a huge gift to her entire extended family and descendants
In the last ten years of her life, following the death of her beloved husband Seng-Moh, Hilda became a prolific writer of prose and poetry, producing 16 booklets of “stories to poems” that she shared with her family and trusted members of her community. These contain her photos, personal recollections, observations on the human condition and nature, and her deep desire to spread joy and gratitude despite many obstacles. As a tribute to Hilda to celebrate her life and creative work, her family is compiling her most remarkable works, and is in the process of publishing them in a hard-cover book format.
Importance of Family
As an immigrant to Canada, Hilda kept in close contact with her family and extended family in Ireland, Malaysia, Thailand, British Columbia and Australia. She ensured that her children developed relationships with their Irish aunts, uncles, cousins, and their Irish heritage through regular family trips back to her homeland; relationships that are cherished and revered by all.
Hilda's journey, in the end, was marked by her profound and enduring love for her children and grandchildren that was the cornerstone and meaning of her life. She is deeply missed by all.
In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to the Cobourg Outdoor Exercise Gym
To the Boys and your extended families. My thoughts are with you all. I worked with your Dad and often saw your Mom while walking her dog. She will be missed, as is your Dad by a community much larger than just your family. Hilda certainly had a remarkable life and has left a wonderful legacy in you all. Take care of each other. Jane
I'm so sorry about the family's loss and wanted to offer my condolences. She was an incredible lady. Over the years, we had some marvellous conversations together. Prayers go out to the family during this difficult time. Rory
Dear Jonathan, Bruce, Bryan and family; sincere condolences for the loss of your Mother at this most difficult time. Hilda was my supervisor at Streamway Villa in the mid 80’s. I respected her professionalism greatly. Years later I was implementing a Time to Care information session at the CCC for LTC and Hilda came over to our table to sign my petition and handed me CD’s on music therapy for the elderly. I was deeply impacted by this! I am thankful to have met your talented Mother.
MY IS FRANCES STANLEY (NEE BRYAN) I MET HILDA ONE TIME SHE WAS HOME .I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR SHE HAS PASSED AWAY .MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY TO YOU ALL
Sincere condolences to the entire family. Really sorry for your loss. Mes condoléances Jonathan, Bryan et Bruce ainsi qu’à vos familles. Thank you Hilda for welcoming me in your house, more than 20 years ago. Edith
Our sincere condolences to the Family. We have known your Mom since the early years of Scouting and St Peter's Church . Often we would meet her out walking. Thinking of you. Deborah and Allan Elder
I only met Hilda once. Oddly enough she had made a profound impact on my life. It was my first week of working at a cafe downtown she frequented, when we met. I stayed an hour past my shift as talked about her life and experiences. We shared our experiences of life in Toronto, the power of education and art, etc. At one point she cried about how much she missed her husband. I’m not sure why, but our conversation emphasized the importance of relationships and seizing the day. I didn’t know Hilda like most of you, but our conversation was memorable and based on the lovely obituary provided, I understand that she was someone who loved life. She taught me a very important lesson. I send my deepest condolences to everyone who knew Hilda beyond one conversation, she was such a light in this world!
Jonathan, Bruce, Bryan and families, we offer our sincere condolences for the loss of your beloved mother. What an amazing person and fine tribute!
Jonathan, Bruce and Bryan and families our sincerest condolences on the passing of your mum Hilda. Thinking of you. Derek and Marjanne
My deepest condolences to you boys in the passing of your mom. Very fond memories of early days at CDCIE with your dad. Your mom was a legend in herself.
As a neighbor of Hilda we grew to know her even more over the years since Seng-Moh passed. A fiercely independent woman yes and very caring. We had many long conversations and shared a final goodbye several weeks ago. Our dog Rusty was a frequent benefactor of her attention. Hilda gave me a copy of her Book #6 Stories My Dog Kassi which is a further insight to her life. She will be missed and all who knew her are fortunate for the privilege.
Jonathan Bruce and Bryan We have so many wonderful memories of aunty Hilda and sing mo Going back years .We used to look forward to your family visits to Ireland. Aunty Hilda was always full of advice wether you listened to it or not depended on what she had to say,it were always words of wisdom. She was great at remembering birthdays and to get a phone call to say happy birthday was always special. We will miss her ,but we will keep her memories in our hearts.
I have many memories of Hilda from St. Peter's Church (especially the Sunday afternoon Youth Group). Our paths crossed often in the Long Term Care world of Cobourg where she was a respected and dedicated nurse. She was indeed "one of a kind", a unique woman determined to make the world a better place. She was a loving wife, a proud mother and grandmother and will be indeed missed by her family and friends. Our sincere sympathy, Chester and Diane Froncz
Bryan, Bruce and Jonathan, you have my deepest sympathies.
Aunty Hilda always has such interesting and strong perspectives on so many aspects of life. Her conversations were always thought provoking and insightful. In my recent interactions with her, I was so impressed at how she put together 16 published books of poems and stories, and also wrote many tomes of her family history. What a tremendous gift she has left for the future generations to come. She will be missed. My sincerest and deepest condolences to Jonathan, Bryan, Bruce and their families. Lyn
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Sending you love and comfort at this difficult time.
Jonathan, Bryan, and Bruce - my deepest sympathy.
Dear Jon, Bruce, and Bryan, We are so sorry for your loss and moved by the wonderful tribute to her life which you've shared here. Having only met Hilda a few times we did not know the full scope of her life, but we were always struck by her gentle and kind manner. She will be very much missed. We wish we could be with you, and you are all in our thoughts.
Dear Bruce, I am moved by the touching words that you and your brothers have written that so beautifully describe your mother. Her strong values and searing intellect are obvious. Hers was definitely a life well lived. I know how much you treasure your Irish heritage, the gift of music that runs through all your veins, and the connection to family, here and abroad. May the road rise to meet her, and the wind be always at her back..... Suaimhneas síoraí dá hanam, Marina Salvadori
What an incredible life! We are so very sorry about the loss of this fierce and unique woman and so glad she has left a legacy in her amazing children. Jon, we send you and your whole family our condolences and our love.
Jonathon, Bryan, Bruce and family. Beautifully written words of your mom. She was a wonderful, honest person who I remember from my days growing up in the neighbourhood to her visits in the store when on a mission. I truly hope to one day see a seniors fitness area in our park in honour of your mom. Sorry for your loss.
Since our family friendships reach far back into the '70s, we have many wonderful memories of times spent together: hikes in Northumberland Forest, with our children still very young; trips to pick blueberries, day trips to various neighbouring counties, and so on. After Seng-Moh's sudden passing, Hilda had a lot to carry on her shoulders alone; however, she was strong and persevered through whatever had to be handled, whether it was improvements to the house or bills to be paid. She was very independent but missed Seng-Moh a lot. She was determined to carry on and keep fit and able. For several years, we (Hilda and Viive) took almost daily walks, usually along the Cobourg lakeside route to Ontario Street and back, sometimes stopping at a coffee shop in downtown. When our physical conditions deteriorated to the point where our lengthy walks were no longer possible, Hilda found other routes for her daily exercise. She was glad that home was close enough to downtown to visit shops there on foot for her daily needs. When major purchases were needed or more distant places visited, we were happy to provide transportation. She was always reluctant to ask for help, so our own weekly grocery-shopping trips coincided with hers. We are grateful to have had so many opportunities to spend time with Hilda, helping her out when needed and also spending time together in various settings. Hilda had good conversations with Paavo, reminiscing about bygone times with Seng-Moh as well as other topics of common interest. We have already missed Hilda for several months and realize more and more what her friendship meant to us. In August, 2020, Hilda wrote a poem, "My Definition of a Friend"; we have this in a frame in our living-room. We offer our sincere condolences to Hilda's and Seng-Moh's wonderful and talented sons, Jonathan, Bruce and Brian and their families. Ethan, Kaia, Leah, Ruby and Marshall, may you be assured that your dear Grandmother was very proud of each of you and often spoke of your achievements and good deeds and loved you dearly. Viive and Paavo
Dear Johnathan, Bruce and Bryan, Sincere condolences on the loss of your beautiful mother Hilda. We hope you find peace and comfort in the huge legacy she has left in the hearts of her family and community. Your mom lived life with love, devotion, conviction, justice, passion and a deep sense of humanity. A life well lived and a continued inspiration for so many touched by her kindness and caring. Rest in peace Hilda and so happy you are reunited with Seng-Moh. Siew Wan, Joel and Jocelyn Squamish BC
Dear Family We were so saddened to hear of Hilda’s passing , but found great joy in reading about her life story. A life well lived , full of family and actions. When she visited Bandon it was always exciting to meet the Canadian cousins. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Dear Hilda, you will be remembered as a woman of rare courage and strength, integrity and determination. You set a great example for your peers, friends, children and grandchildren. I loved your wry sense of humour and the twinkle in your eye. Much love, Janine Edwards, Alameda CA
So very sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom only knew your mom as a Metro customer always enjoyed a hug and a chat Angel Hugs to all❤️
It was a privilege to have known Hilda. I always admired her interest and determination to act on her beliefs of fairness and justice for all.
I first met Hilda 34 yrs ago and was fortunate enough to work alongside her at Streamway Villa. A great nurse, well respected, a true advocate for the elderly, demanding they be treated with respect and dignity and also expecting her staff to do the same.(or face the consequences of being pulled into her office, the dreaded med room:)) On her days off she would brighten the nurses station with beautiful flowers from her garden. Over the past few yrs Hilda became part of our Golden Villa Girls and attended our monthly luncheons. She encouraged us to support Cobourg's downtown restaurants and would show her disapproval by being absent when we travelled out of town. Her compassion and appreciation of being included was shown by presenting each of us with a rose on occasion. Hilda would refuse to be picked up and continued to walk to meet us, even when her physical health was declining. She was strong willed and determined. Exercise and fresh air were vital to her daily routine. She would walk downtown twice a day, stopping at the Human Bean or The Pink Cafe for tea, to visit or write her poetry. It has been an honour getting to know Hilda on a personal level these past few years. You will be missed. RIP beautiful angel
Sending you all lots of love at this time. We will all miss auntie Hilda, she always had such lovely stories to tell when she visited Bandon xx Laura and family x
To the Seet family, so sorry for your loss, Hilda was a sweet, caring person to work with at Streamway Villa, and Mr Seet was a great typing teacher from the East Collegiate many years ago, may Hilda RIP, will miss you, and also at the Golden Girls Luncheon’s 🙏🥲.
My deepest condolences, Bruce. The loss of someone dear is never easy. I hope all the cherished memories that you have of your mom brings you some joy during this time.
We are so sad to hear of the passing of Bryan's lovely mum. Lots of love to all the Seet family. What an amazing woman! I wish i had met her. We could have given out about nursing together 😉
Thank you for publishing such a beautiful and loving tribute to the life of Hilda. So very much to be proud of and such a wonderful legacy. Irish eyes are smiling in the wake of a life well lived. Condolences to her family and friends who will miss her heartily. Blessings sent from Eileen and George Oliver.
Jonathan, Bryan, Bryan and families, I am so sorry to hear that your mother has left the world. She loved each of you so fiercely. I delighted in running into her downtown and getting updates on each of you and your families. My deepest condolences.
My deepest condolences for your loss of such an amazing woman, mother, and friend. I did not know her, but she must have been such an inspiration to all who knew her. May her memories live on in the people who knew and loved her
Such a touching recollection of an extraordinary woman. We love you all.
Jonathan, Bruce, Bryan and families: As neighbours of Hilda for 24 years, we shall miss seeing her determindly walk by on her twice daily walks, cane in hand the last few years. We enjoyed occasional chats about our gardens, our families, our churches, our life in general. Rest in Peace Hilda.
Oh Johnathan, Bryan, Bruce and families. I am so sad to hear of the loss of your beautiful mother. She took me under her wing when I was a shy teenager. Thanks to her I became an active member of the St Peter's choir and the youth group. She inspired me, encouraged me and loved me. I will never forget her or the lasting influence she has had on my life. Please accept my deepest condolences.
I am so sorry for your loss, I worked with Hilda at Streamway Villa, she was such a dedicated nurse and lovely person, may she RIP my thoughts are with the family