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It is with broken hearts that the family of Tom Basinger announce his peaceful passing at Ed’s House on October 11, 2023 surrounded by his family, after a courageous battle with cancer.
Beloved and devoted husband of 48 years to Shirley (nee Bowman). Loving father of Amy Skinner (Kevin), and Kimberly Sitarski (Brandon). Adored Papa of Lauren & Everett Skinner and Alexander and Kaysen Sitarski.
Loved son of John and Bernice Basinger. Brother of Ric Basinger (Barb), Mary Bevan (Paul), Rob Basinger (Joanne). Son-in-law to Audrey Bowman, and brother-in-law to Arnold (June) Bowman, Earl (Marlene) Bowman and Gary (Nancy) Bowman. Uncle to many nieces and nephews.
Tom was a proud employee of Cameco (formerly Eldorado) for more than 30 years. He was a true outdoorsman, enjoying many hunting and fishing adventures with some of his closest friends. A true competitor, he played many years of fastball and hockey in the Cobourg area, and even got tossed from a few ball parks over the years. He always had a great joke, story, or one-liner to get a laugh. He will be sorely missed by many.
Special thanks to Dr. Kay, Dr. Mead, Dr. Mulé, and the amazing staff in the Oncology department at Northumberland Hills Hospital. To the staff and volunteers at Ed’s House, a heartfelt thank you for your care and compassion in Tom’s final days.
At Tom’s request, there will be no service. A celebration of life will be held at a date to be determined. Those wishing to make memorial donations in Tom’s honour can be made to Ed’s House Northumberland Hospice.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Dear Shirley We have just learned of Tom's passing. We are so sorry. Hopefully time will ease your pain. Your friends for many years. Joe and Chris Hugs
Shirley and family, I am sorry to read about Tom's passing. He truly was a Cobourg boy and remember he was a fearless and enthusiastic hockey player. Take care, I know you have many memories to guide you.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
So sorry for you loss, Tom was a good man, he will be missed!
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Shirley, Amy and Kimberly and family. There are no words for what you are going through. We had no idea that Tom was ill. Please know that you are in our thoughts and hearts.
Sorry for your loss. Many of our members had the pleasure, of working along side Tom. You were guaranteed a good laugh. His smile was contagious. Thinking of friends and family at this difficult time. USW Local 13173
Shirley, We were very sad to hear of Tom’s passing. Days ahead will be very difficult for you and your family. Hope you have a lot of fond memories to help you through.
Shirley, Amy and Kimberly, so sorry and sad to hear of Tom’s passing. Really enjoyed moments we would run into each other. I thought I had the record for being thrown out of ball games but I heard Bass got me by a couple of games. Keep all your wonderful memories, and I am sure you will have a lot of laughter through the sadness.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Dear Shirley and Family: We send our sincere condolences in your loss of Tom.Sending you strength,hugs and quiet times for reflection as you navigate the days ahead.Blessings to you all.
Shirley, Ric, Mary Ellen and families please accept my condolences on your loss of Tom. A great sportsman he was. Thinking of you at this time.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Our deepest sympathy to you and your family, so very sorry for your loss
Shirley and family: We are so very sorry to hear of Tom's passing. He was a true Cobourg icon and will be missed by so many. We are sending hugs to you and you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Our very deepest Sympathy and prayers for Shirley and your families! Ed and Tom enjoyed many sports together and Tom took him out fishing a couple times..wonderful memories! So sorry for your loss.
Dear Shirley It is sad when someone leaves us that we have loved for many years. Our community have lost many great men lately, Tom is one of them. Please take care of each other. Love Jeanine Clarey
Sending my condolences to your family. Tom and a I worked together at Cameco for over 30 years. We played ball together in Cold Springs for a few years. I remember his warm up ball full of spikes. He was a good ball player and always good for a laugh. He’ll be missed.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Our hearts are breaking for everyone who lost this wonderful man, in all the many roles he filled in life.
Shocked and saddened to learn of Tom’s passing. My thoughts are with you and your family Shirley.
Sorry to hear about Tom's passing. My thoughts are with you and your family. Gail Baker
Shirley, we were so surprised to hear of Tom's passing. Tom was quite the character, and your many years together will provide cherished memories for you and your family. You will relive the stories, and through the tears, recall his laughter. Our condolences. Sherry & Andy Ashcroft
Shirley, Amy and Kimberly, we were so sorry and sad to hear of Tom’s passing. Tom always kept everyone laughing at whatever event we were at. He was a great guy and will be sorely missed. Keep all your wonderful memories close at heart. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Janice and Dennis
Sorry to hear of Tom's passing . I worked with Tom for a short time at the old plant . Always enjoyed his stories
My deepest condolences to uncle John, aunt Bernice, Rob,Rick and Mary.
Ric and Basinger Family, Our sincerest heartfelt condolences for your loss.
Shirley, so sad to hear of your loss. I remember the many "Tom-isms" you used to share with us at the Board Office. Jan and Bill Dickinson
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Sorry for your loss, Tom was a good buddy of mine l'll miss him.
I am so sorry, just heard about Tom today. My sincere condolences to you, Shirley, Amy, Kimberly and the rest of his family. I had the pleasure of working with Tom for the best part of 15 years in the UO2 Plant at Cameco. Many good memories. Peter Wieczorek
Dear Bernice and John and family , so sorry to here of Tom's passing. We send our sincerest condolences.
Shirley we are so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. Our thought and prayers are with you and the entire Basinger family.
Words cannot express how sorry we are to hear of Tom's passing. Our thoughts are with you Shirley, and Basinger family.
Dear Bernice , John and Family My father and I were very sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. We send our sincerest condolences. Jack and Jackie Russell
Shirley and your daughters, we were very surprised to hear about Tom. Our deepest condolences to you and all the Bassinger families. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Shirley, Amy, Kim and the Basinger family, please accept our sincere condolences on the passing of your dear husband, father, grampa, son, brother and uncle.
Sorry for your loss. Tom was a good guy. Dad always spoke highly of him.
So sorry to hear of Tom's passing. May the many fond memories sustain the family through this difficult time.
Dear Shirley and family. I am so sorry to learn of Tom’s passing. Cherish your memories. Sue
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
I’m very Sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. He was such a great guy. He will be missed by so many. Sending all my love to the families during this difficult time.
The Basinger Family So sorry to see Tom has passed away. What a shock to see this. May he RIP Sincerely
Shirley and family. Our condolences to a great person on and off the ball field. Had some great times over the years. RIP Tom. Butch and Sue
Dear Shirley and families, we are so shocked and sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. Cherish all the wonderful memories as there are so many through this difficult time. Neil and Barb Pemberton
So sorry to hear about your loss.my condolences to all your family. All our prayers for your family, from the Washburn family.
I’m sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this most difficult time.
Tom had a heart of gold that he wrapped around a (sometimes) gruff exterior. Great friend, story teller and competitor. So very sad for your loss … and our loss too . He will be missed.
Shirley, Sorry to hear about Tom's passing . Our thoughts and prayers to the family.
Shirley and family we are so sorry to hear about Tom our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.
Shirley and Family Our deepest Condolences to you and your family. I am so sad to hear of Tom's passing, a total shock. I played Tuesday night hack & slash with Tom and friends. Don & Heather Quinn
So very sorry to hear of your loss. Please know you are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Dear Shirley and families. So sorry for your loss of a wonderful husband. You’re in our thoughts and prayers at this very difficult time.
To Shirley, Amy&Kimberly. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your families. Tom and I worked together from the day I started until his retirement. We had SO MANY laughs and jokes over the years. “Bass & Jexy”helped me get started and we always had fun and great times. Tom will be missed Stacey & Cindy Marriott
Very sorry to hear of Tom'spassing . Cherish the memories.
Sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. My Thoughts & Prayers to the family. Lean on each other for strength. Always Talk about your family memories. Hugs Marilyn Q.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Shirley, we are so sad to hear of Tom’s passing. Our deepest condolences to you, Kim, Amy and families. You are in our prayers. Love Cheryl and Doug
Dear Shirley , Kimberly , Amy & families; Sending you are deepest condolences at this most difficult time & hope the memories & wonderful times shared together will help in the days ahead . Thinking of you . Bob & Sandy
We are thinking of you during this difficult time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Love Patricia and Tim
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
To Shirley and Family So sorry to hear of Tom's passing. We all appreciated his stories. He was a bright light in life.
Dear Shirley and Family and Mr. & Mrs..Bassinger, So sorry for your loss of a wonderful Husband and loving Son. You’re in our thoughts and sending sincere condolences.
Sorry to hear the sad news of Tom's passing i had the pleasure of working with Tom at Cameco in the warehouse we had some good meals and great laughs my condolences to your whole family without a doubt he will be missed .
Our heartfelt sympathy to Shirley and the Basinger clan.
Shirley, Amy, Kimberly and family So sad to hear of Tom's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this sad time. I will always have good memories of working with Tom. Shawn Linton and Judy Immel
Shirley, and the entire Basinger family. So sorry to hear of Tom's passing. Many, many fond ball, and hockey memories over the years. Simply put, just an all round great guy. Condolences from Lynne and I. "B" Sherwin
I will miss my stop along Dale Rd. for a beer and conversation with Tom. He always had a great story to tell. There will be a few more salmon in Lake O. My condolences to his wonderful family.
Shirley, Amy, Kimberly and the rest of Basinger family.So sorry to hear Tom has passed .He will be missed on the yard sale circuit. Our condolences to all.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
So sorry to hear of Tom's passing. Our deepest sympathy to Shirley and family, you are all in our thoughts and prayers at this sad time.
My condolences Ric, Barb and the entire family.
Shirley, Sending my deepest sympathy. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Shirley, Mary and families. So sorry to hear of your heartache and loss. Another good one gone.
Shirley, Amy & Kimberly So sorry to hear of Tom passing. He was such a great witty guy! Try to focus on fun times and wonderful memories!
So sorry for your loss. Really enjoyed our Roseneath fastball times.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Shirley, girls and Basinger families, my deepest condolences for the loss of Tom. With sincere sympathy, Estelle
Shirley Sending deepest condolences to you and your family. Brian,Debbie
Shirley and family sorry to hear of your loss
Dear Shirley and family: I am so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. Please know that I am thinking of you all during this sad time. Continuing to share your memories with each other will help you all get through the difficult days ahead.
Shirley and family so sorry for your loss Tom was a great guy!
Dear Shirley, Amy and Kim We are very sorry for your loss of Tommy, he was taken from you all so much sooner than what is fair in life. That having been said, Tommy was the perfect example of a life well lived and enjoyed. Tom was a loving Son, Brother, Husband, Father, Papa and Friend who always had the conviction to walk to the beat of his own drum with humour, skill, strength and direction. Know that Tom will always be with you in Spirit and may his strength guide your family through this difficult time. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. Love Uncle Bud, Denise and Allan
So Sorry for your loss Shirley and Family. Cherish your memories they will help you to welcome each morning with a smile. Be kind to yourself dear old neighbour! God Bless!
Shirley and family Sorry to hear about your loss. Tom was a fun guy all around. He was great to work with with lots of laughs. Dan Foden
We were sad to hear of Tom's passing. He was a tough competitor and very capable pitcher. He was the last pitcher I played against in the old Town league Our sincere condolence to Shirley and Tom's family. We remember all the smiles and good times with SHirley in the office at Terry Fox.
On behalf of Paul and Mary Jane, I want to offer our condolences to the Bassinger Family. As kids we were so fortunate to have Tom, Ric, Mary Ellen and Rob to play with as our backyards crossed. We loved playing ball with Tom in the Central School playground or road hockey on James Street. Rest in Peace Tom. You are fondly remembered by us. Our thoughts and prayers go out to all the Bassingers.
I will always have cherished memories of our early days playing ball with Tom and Ric. On and off the field, Tom was a presence.
Shirley, Amy, Kim, Aunt Bernice, Uncle John and the rest of the Basinger family: Our hearts breaks for your loss. Please accept our deepest condolences to each of you. We send our love ❤️ to you and know that Tom lives on in our hearts and with all the memories each of us have.
My deepest condolences to you Shirley, Amy, Kim and families. Cherish your memories, he’ll always be with you xx
Shirley Sending deepest condolences to you and your family. Craig and Debi
I am so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. Was with Tom from grade 7 thru high school plus playing ball on teams. He was a good friend always with loads of jokes and laughter. Shirley and family remember all the great times shared. Tom rest in peace.
Dear Bernice, John, Shirley and family. Our deepest sympathy of Tom. Our thoughts & prayers are with you all at this very sad time.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Shirley & family, John & Bernice. Sorry to hear of Tom passing. Our deepest condolences to all. Thinking of everyone Carm & Brenda Panepinto
Dear Shirley, Amy, Kim and families. Our deepest sympathies at the passing of Tom. The hunt camp will never be the same without his familiar voice and the stories he told. Thinking of all of you at this sad time.
I was shocked and saddened to hear of Tom's passing. I had known Tom for 60+ years and he was a character in the best sense of that word. My sincere condolences to Shirley, Amy and Kimberly and their families.
Thinking of all of you during this time of sadness.
Dear Shirley & family, We are so sorry to hear of Toms passing, our thoughts are with you. Rhonda & Wayne
We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you.
Dear Shirley, Amy, Kim and all of the Basinger family, we are so sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. Please accept our sincere condolences.
Dear Shirley and family. Sending our condolences to your family at this difficult time. Cherish all the good memories that you's have made over the years. Hugs and Prayers to you Wendy and Rick
My sincere condolence John and Berniece and the entire Bassinger family in your loss of Tom ,thinking of you all at this devastating time .
Sorry for your loss. Shirley, you are in our thoughts through this difficult time.
Dear Shirley, Amy, Kim and families, We are so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. Tom was a great guy and will be missed by many people. Our deepest sympathy to you, Ivan and Mary
Shirley and family. So sorry for your loss. Tom was a real character and such a great guy. Our condolences. Delkie and Linda
Shirley and all of the Basinger family our deepest sympathies in your loss.of Tom. Tom always had a smile when you met him and Tom has such great memories of him on the ball field. Cherish your memories to help you through these difficult times
Shirley and family sorry to learn of Toms passing my sincere condolences to all of you. Cherish all your wonderful memories hopefully they help you through this most difficult time. May he RIP hugs to all of you.
Rest in peace Tom.
So sorry to hear this, my condolences to Shirley and the whole Basinger Family. Tom was a great Guy that you could not help but like. Childhood friend, co-worker and all round good guy, I will cherish my memories and my thoughts will be with you, his family at this time
Thinking of you Shirley, Amy, Kim and all of your Families at this sad time. To John and Bernice and Ric Rob and MaryEllen and your Families my heartfelt condolences .So many good memories .Love to you all.
Tim and I send our deepest sympathies to you all! We pray your happy memories give you peace and comfort during this difficult time.
So very sorry to hear this sad news Keep your memories close. He was such a great guy. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Rob, Joanne and family, I’m so sorry for your loss. Treasure your memories Sue
Shirley, Amy, Kim and families, we were so saddened to hear of Tom’s passing. Always a good time when in Tom’s company. All the girls growing up had so much fun playing cards with Tom. He always spoke of his Shirl, Amy, Kim and families with such pride. Cherish your memories.
My sincere condolences to the Basinger family. Cherish all your memories and may they help you get through this difficult time
Shirley, Amy, Kim and the Basinger family, we are so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. Our sincere condolences to all.
Shirley and family: So very shocked and saddened to hear of Tommy's passing. As neighbors for years the memories are of endless good times spent at the Basinger home. One of my fondest memories is of Tom and Rick teaching that little girl from James St. how to ride her first two wheel bike. May fond memories and the love of family sustain you through these most difficult of times. May those memories bring you comfort and make you smile when shared with your loved ones. Sincerely, Kelly
Shirley and family sorry to hear of Tom's passing, many great memories of Tom at the ball park.
Oh the memories…… I don’t think there was ever a time that when we ran into Tom that we didn’t have a few laughs!! I have such great memories of spending time at the Basingers house as a kid, we always had fun times…. Shirley, Amy, Kim and all Tom’s family hold all your precious memories of which I am sure there are many close to help you get thru this most difficult time. Please accept our condolences and know that we are thinking and praying for each and everyone of you. Steve and Jan
Sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. He was one of the many guys who let me as a teenager play ball on their mens league teams. I believe I was at a few of those games where Bass was asked to leave the park. Take care.
Sending love to your family!! Many good memories with Mr Basinger and I just wanted to know that I am thinking of you during this time! Sending hugs
So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you all. Always enjoyed Tom's funny remarks. Rip catch the big one.
Dear Shirley and family, we were saddened to hear about Tom's passing. Beth and I send our love and condolences at this difficult time.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending condolences to all.
Dear Shirley, Basinger & Bowman families. Thinking of you with sincere sympathy. He was such a fun guy. Loved his wit.
My heart felt condolences to you Shirley, Amy & Kim and extended family.
Sad to hear of Tom's passing. My Condolences to All the Family !!!
We are saddened to hear of the passing of Tommy. Our deepest condolences to the Basinger family.
Deepest sympathy Shirley to you and your family. Tom always had a story to tell to make you smile. Take care. Nancy and Brian.
Dear Shirley, Amy, Kim and family, We were so saddened to hear of Tom’s passing. He was such a character, enjoyed making people laugh and he was really good at it. Please accept our sincere condolences during this very sad time. Sending hugs to you all.
I am very sorry to hear of Tom's passing. My condolences to all of Tom's family.
To the Basinger Family. Sorry for your loss. Many a good time playing with Tom & Rick on the Central School Ballyard.
To Shirley and family My sincere condolences to you all ! My love and thoughts are with you at this very sad time Tom was a fighter , may his memories be a blessing Love Mars ❤️
Shirley and family We are so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. Tom was such a witty and fun guy to be around. All the kids just loved being around him because he always made jokes with them and made them laugh. He will be greatly missed. Our thoughts are with you all.
We are so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. Our condolences to the Basinger family.
Thinking of you all, Tom was a great guy to work with, lots of laughs and stories, your hearts will hold precious memories forever, sincere condolences ? Susan & Dan
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Dear Shirley, Amy, Kim & family I’m so very very sorry to read this announcement but know that Tom is now at peace. Please tell stories about your Husband, Dad, brother and Son❤️Always speak of him, laugh about the crazy things that happened in Bass’s life, keep all your loving memories close. Sending love, hugs & prayers??❤️
Our deepest condolences to Tom's family and friends. Pat played alot of sports with Tom and he was a good player and always fun to be around. He will be missed by many.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Our deepest sympathies to the Basinger and Bowman families. Thinking of you all at this sad time..
Shirley and Family and all the Basinger and Bowman Families....we are so sorry to hear about Tom. Please accept our most deepest sympathy. Cherish all your wonderful memories.
Dear Shirley, Amy, Kim and all of the Basinger family. Please know the loss of Tom will be felt by many. Tom and the Basinger family hold a special place in my heart and I am heartbroken to learn of Tom's passing. We ran into each other this summer, had a good chat, some laughs and a good hug. We will cherish our memories of Tom and keep all of you in our thoughts and prayers. He was a great guy and will be remembered with love. A donation has been made to Ed's house. Judy and Randy.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Shirley and Family we are so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. Please accept our condolences. Please know that Tom was a special kind of man and that his smiles, stories and being a great teammate over the years was something I will always remember.
Shirley, girls and all of the Basinger Family…please know that you have our sincere condolences. Joe and Sharon Wamsley
So sorry for your loss. Condolences to the family.
Very sorry to hear the passing of Tom sending my condolences to all members of the Basinger family.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Tom was a great guy with a wonderful sense of humor! You and your family are in our prayers. Ron &Pat Proulx
Shirley and family, we are very sorry to hear that Tom died. We’re thinking of you during this difficult time…….
Dear Shirley and the whole Basinger family. Tom was a great guy. Spent a lot of time on the ice with him and comparing deer hunting stories. My sincere condolences .to the Basinger family
We would like to send our condolences to the family. Sunfish, as George Cortesis nicknamed him, enjoyed the game of snooker with Rick May back in the day, and fishing of course....but it was always nice to catch up when we would meet and shoot the breeze...may he rest in peace.
Sending our condolences. Tom will be dearly missed.
So sorry to read of Tom's passing. He was a great guy! To Shirley, Amy, Kimberly, grandchildren & the rest of the family our thoughts & prayers are with you. Cherish your memories. Eric & Carol
I'm so sorry to hear of Toms' passing. He and John spent many happy hours together playing local sports. My condolences to all his family and friends.
Dear Shirley and Family. I am so sorry to learn of Tom’s passing. My sincere sympathy to you, Amy, Kimberly and Tom’s parents John and Bernice. Bonnie
Shirley & family Sorry to hear of Tom's passing ... love planted a garden of memories for your family
So sorry to hear of Toms passing- condolences to all of the families!
Sad to hear of Tom's passing. He was always a great friend to myself & my brother Tom. Our heartfelt condolences.
Shirley and family: We are saddened at the loss of Tom and reminded of his love of life and his wit. Our deepest sympathy you all.
Shirley and family we were so sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. He was indeed a great guy and neighbor for many many years. I’m sure that you will all miss him dearly. but hold your memories close and he’ll be with you forever. Jane and Wayne Mullins.
A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:
Ed's House Northumberland Hospice Care Centre
Dear Shirley and Family. Very sad to hear of Tom's passing. please accept our condolences. Many fond memories of Tommy. Tom was a great team mate, I loved playing hockey and ball with him, loved his stories...he was one of a kind. ❤️
To all of the Basinger families. So sorry to hear of Tom‘s passing. I have good memories of him playing hockey on and off the ice. He was a genuine character and a good man. Always good for a story and a laugh. Please accept my condolences. RIP Tom
Sorry for loss, my prayers are with you Shirley and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to the family.
You have our sorrows