Patricia Ellen McHenry
Visitation

MacCoubrey Funeral Home
30 King St. E.,, Cobourg
Thursday, February 25th 7:00 pm - 7:45 pm


Visitation

MacCoubrey Funeral Home
30 King St. E.,, Cobourg
Thursday, February 25th 8:00 pm - 9:00 pm


Mass of Christian Burial

St. Michael's Catholic Church
379 Division St.,, Cobourg
Friday, February 26th 10:00 am - 11:00 am


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Patricia Ellen McHenry

January 22, 1943 - February 21, 2021

It is with heavy hearts the family of Patricia Ellen McHenry announces her peaceful passing on Sunday February 21st, 2021 at the Brantford General Hospital, in her 79th year. Cherished and loved by her daughters Tammy O'Neill Foisey and husband Ken and Kelly Dafoe and husband Dave. Patricia was born in Trenton, Ontario to James and Emma LaMorre McHenry the youngest of six siblings. Although times were hard, their faith and family gave them community , support and laughter. She married Carl and they raised their girls in Oakville, Ontario. She was appointed Justice Of The Peace For Our Province Of Ontario in 1993 and served with passion until her 75th birthday. Patricia was grateful every day for her colleagues in the courts and the Police Officers she respected so much. Patricia loved to dance and she cried at the Humane Society commercials. She was proud and strong with a devilish wit. She loved an event and the chance to "get gussied up". Her friendships both new and lifelong were treasures and she missed the spontaneity of dinner out or a casino trip in these Covid times . Patricia is pre-deceased by her parents, brothers John and Donald, sister Janet and brother-in-law Warren Stewart. She leaves behind her beloved sisters Margaret Stewart and Anne McHenry, her grand family Josh, Emily, Matt, Tristan and many nieces and nephews and their children. Friends and family are invited attend visiting on Thursday evening. February 25th from 7 - 7:45 pm. and 8 - 9 pm. (You must RSVP on our web site www.MacCoubey.com for your visitation time slots.) A funeral mass will be held at St. Michael's Catholic Church, Cobourg on Friday February 26th at 10 am. (You must RSVP at www.MacCoubrey.com if you are attending the mass). The mass will be streamed live at www.stmichaelschurchcobourg.com. Cremation with interment in the spring. If desired donations may be made to the Northumberland Humane Society.

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MESSAGES OF CONDOLENCE / DONATIONS

Ron DeMerchant - February 27, 2021

When I was an MTO officer in Northumberland, I many occasions to meet with Her Worship on a professional basis. Unlike many of her colleagues, she took the time to get to know the officers who served our community. It was indeed a privilege to know her and I am so sorry to hear of her passing. She was a special lady.

Garry Hull - February 27, 2021

I was truly saddened to hear of her Worship’s passing. I had many occasions to be in front of Patricia over the course of my career. Whether at the court office or in the kitchen at her home drinking coffee and sampling her cookies, she always had a smile on her face and was quick to share a funny anecdote. Over the course of my career there were many great JP’s, but there was only one Patricia! May you forever be at peace and rest easy Patricia. You will be missed.

Jam gang - February 26, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Margje - February 26, 2021

Patricia was an incredible human being. My condolences to her family and everyone close to her. She will be missed dearly. Rest easy, Patricia❤

Malcolm and Jenny Dunlop - February 26, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Florence Femiak - February 26, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

John and Janice Sherwin - February 26, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Margaret Coutts - February 26, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Opal Rosamond - February 26, 2021

Dear Tammy and Kelly, I am so very sorry to hear of Patricia’s passing. She was a wonderful friend and colleague. We shared many stories and great laughs. She adored her girls and spoke of you with such pride. RIP friend and dance with the angels. Opal

Jocelyne Johnson - February 26, 2021

Tammy, Kelly and family, I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. She was always so cheerful and caring and fun to work with. She will truly be missed.

Kerri Miller - February 26, 2021

Dear Tammy, Kelly and family, my deepest condolences go out to you on the passing of your dear mom. I worked with your mom at Cobourg Court Services and was the Court Reporter at her swearing in ceremony when she became a Justice of the Peace. From the moment I met Patricia, she was just the loveliest of ladies! Full of class and fun-loving, deeply kind and always stylish. She was a very much loved member of our work family and her loss is felt very deeply. She just meant so much to so many. I have very fond memories line dancing at your mom’s place and enjoying our many work gatherings with her. She will always be a part of Cobourg Court Services, and will always be remembered. My heart goes out to you at this sad time. You were both her everything and she loved you so very much. Wrapping healing hugs around you. Most sincerely, and with much love, Kerri

Elaine Oakes - February 25, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Cyndy and Rob Harper - February 25, 2021

Tammy, Ken, Tammy and Dave please accept our sincere condolences in loss of your Mother. Your mom was truly a beautiful, kind, thoughtful and an amazing lady, loved and respected by all who knew her. I have so many fond memories of your mom at work at the courthouse and outside of work. Your mom and my mom were in the hospital together recovering from their strokes in 2009. Please know you are all in our thoughts and prayers. I will be attending your mother’s mass of Christian burial, but I am sorry but I won’t be attending the visitation. May God give you strength and comfort during this time of sadness.

Carol Lawrencecarol324lv@gmail.com - February 25, 2021

Sending love and heartfelt sympathy to Patricia's family. So very sorry for your loss. Your Mom was a great person and dear friend to so many of us. I am not able to be at the visitation this evening but you will all be in my thoughts. I have made a donation to the Humane society in Memory to my late dear friend Patricia. Blessings to all.

Michelle Murray - February 25, 2021

It is with a very sad and broken heart that I am sending my most sincere condolences to Tammy, Ken, Kelly and Dave. Your mother was so very special to us all. I still remember the day she came to school at recess, and played jump rope with us. Her caring, and mothering of us all will not be forgotten. She was everyone's mom, when your own wasn't around. Tammy and Kelly, you know that I am Always her for you. Sisters stick together. Rest In Peace my sweet Patricia

Michelle Murray - February 25, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Laura and Walt Malarczuk - February 25, 2021

Patricia will be missed. She was always a lady, but she had a devilish wit. She loved her family so much and was so proud of her daughters. God Speed our friend Laura and Walt

Marc Bebee - February 25, 2021

Patricia McHenry was the first Justice of the Peace I appeared in front of almost 20 years ago. Over those years I appeared in front of her hundreds of times. Each and every time I walked into her Court seeing her on the Bench would immediately lift my mood because I knew that regardless of what the docket had in store she would meet it with fairness, kindness, and grace. She genuinely cared about the people who appeared in front of her and often would give them not just what her position and role required but words of encouragement, and more often than not, a second chance. Hers might have been the first face of Justice an accused had seen, but even if not the first, Justice has had no face more compassionate than hers. Compassion is a trait both precious and rare, particualrly to those for whom life and authority has shown too little, too often, prior. Before and after Court we would chat about the goings on and she'd ask about the kids as they grew. Sometimes the chats would go on for quite some time though now, in hindsight, they feel so brief. I remember our last chat and it ended in a hug and goodbye and it is heart breaking for me to now realize it was our last. My most sincerest condolences to her loved ones.

Maria Malchiondo - February 24, 2021

Dear Tammy and Family, Sending my deepest, heartfelt condolences on the loss of your precious beloved mum. May her memory be for a blessing and may you find peace and healing surrounded by the support of your friends and family. Your mum was an incredible woman of strength and vigour and her soul will forever be with all who knew and loved her. With much love and prayers. Maria

Gracie, Glen, Shelley & Families - February 24, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Carly - February 24, 2021

Patsy--Thanks for 2 great girls- rip

Carl O'Neill - February 24, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Joey Simonetta and Paloma Goncalves - February 24, 2021

We are saddened to hear about the passing of Patricia. She was a wonderful woman, who will be truly missed. We give our hearts and condolences to her family, and to our Aunt Tammy. We love you. Paloma and Joey

Marilyn Ford - February 24, 2021

Our thoughts and prayers Tammy, Kelly and family. I worked with Her Worship at the Cobourg court office for many years. She was a wonderful lady to work with. She performed a wedding for our daughter Jennifer a few years ago. Patricia always had a smile for everyone and we shared many happy times. We missed her at our retiree lunches when she moved to Brantford but I know she was excited to be closer to her daughters. RIP Merrilee Blyth also wished to send her condolences to Patricia’s family. She also was a member of the Cobourg court family.

Marilyn and John Ford - February 24, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Carol Lawrence - February 24, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Cindy Reeves and Stan Sokay - February 24, 2021

Tammy, Kelly and family, Our deepest condolences on the loss of your mom Patricia. Stan and I were blessed to have been able to work with Patricia throughout our Policing careers. She was a wonderful human being that we were grateful to call a friend. She was kind and compassionate and always eager to speak about her love of her daughters. We will miss her dearly. Please know that you are in our thoughts during this difficult time. Stan and Cindy

Rick & Ronni Duggan - February 24, 2021

Tammy, Kelly and family, We are so sorry to hear of Pat's sudden passing. I can't help but smile just thinking of her. I loved that girl! I have the fondest memories, that I will treasure forever. I wish that Rick & I could be there to give you a huge hug and share in our favorite stories of Pat. I have a lot. Your mom was one of the kindest, witty, and caring people I've had the pleasure to know. Tammy & Kelly I hope you take comfort in knowing just how well loved you mom was, and how much she loved and was proud of you girls. Rick & I made a donation in Pat's name to the Northumberland Humane Society, just like her to think of the furbabies too! xoxo

Brad Manning - February 24, 2021

Suzanne and I are sadden to hear of the passing of Patricia. She was a bright light, always happy and smiling. I really enjoyed seeing her at 860 and talking to her. She was always ready to pass on a funny story or two about life, but remained professional in her duties, and the business at hand. Patricia will not be forgotten. RIP.

Iris Adamson - February 24, 2021

So sorry to hear of Her Worship’s (Patricia’s) passing. Please accept my heartfelt sympathies on the loss of your loved one. It was always a pleasure to hear her ‘letter of the law, as well as spirit of the law’ reasons for judgment when I appeared before her in First Attendance, as a Provincial Prosecutor, many years ago. Patricia was a wonderful person who will be missed greatly. May God comfort all of you in this difficult time.

sam majic - February 24, 2021

My sincerest condolences to Pats family Got to know Patricia when I was in probation and parole She was a fine jp always smiling and willing to help pats family Got to know Pat

Dave Slessor - February 23, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Dave Slessor - February 23, 2021

My deepest sympathies and prayers to Her Worship’s family. I had the great pleasure appearing in her Court first as defence counsel and later as a Crown. She was kind, wise and prudent in her decisions and in protecting our community. As has been mentioned before there would always be a smile, a question about how I was doing, how the kids were and her Worship gushing about her family and her latest adventure (or misadventure) after Court ended for the day. I feel lucky to have known such a wonderful lady. God Bless

Cindy Disney - February 23, 2021

Tammy and Kelly I’m so sorry to hear about the passing of your wonderful mother. I worked with her at the court office in Cobourg for at least 15 years. She was the most fun loving person ever. She enjoyed coming into the office, showing off her new swanky clothes. She was always the best dressed lady in the office. I remember she always came to my house for little house parties that I had, and just enjoyed getting together with everyone for a good time. She will be so missed by so many people. May you all find peace soon.

Sandra and Tim - February 23, 2021

Patsy will be dearly missed. We always looked forward to and really enjoyed spending time together. We loved her mischievous, funny and great sense of humour. We loved you Patsy 💕💕💕

Biagio Simonetta - February 23, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Villy and Biagio Simonetta - February 23, 2021

Tammy and Kelly, we are so sorry to hear that you have lost your mom. I know that she was loved and admired by many. May God send his angels to wrap their wings around you and those dear to her.

Kathy Brisbin - February 23, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Kathy Brisbin - February 23, 2021

I am so sorry to hear of Patricia's passing. My most heartfelt condolences to Tammy, Kelly and family. Patricia was a wonderful, caring person who will be missed by many.

Lee & Graham Coutts - February 23, 2021

Sending all my love and condolences to Tammy and Kelly. I loved your mom with all my heart I love that she considered me an daughter. One of her girls. Patricia was such a giving and fun person and always made everyone feel so special. I will miss and remember you always ❤️ Please know that I will always be there for your girls and hug them often. Thank you for being you may you Rest In Peace 🙏🤗❤️

Lee Armsden - February 23, 2021

I am so sorry to hear of Pats passing. We had many a thoughtful conversation at our Red Hat luncheons. She will be greatly missed. Sympathies to her family and friends.

Linda Lafontaine - February 23, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Linda Lafontaine - February 23, 2021

Patricia, I am better for knowing you, better for all the special times we shared, better for having met you. May you be as blessed in the next life, my dear friend, as I was in this one for knowing you. Kelly, Dave, Ken and Tammy, my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your Mom. May you find comfort in remembering the special moments that brightened your days throughout the years.

Erin Martin - February 23, 2021

Tammy and Kelly, I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. She was a wonderful woman and will be missed. I always loved the time I got to spend with her amd she always talked so fondly of both of you. You were definitely her pride and joy.

Bonnie Hilliard - February 23, 2021

Patricia will be missed. We her gals from red hatters, had been trying to send a Christmas card. No one had her address. I personally loved her, she was so much fun. I bought a few pieces of her furniture which I will cherish. She loved you girls, talked about you. You kept her fussed up with all her up to date clothes. God bless you.

Janet Richardson - February 23, 2021

My most sincere condolences to the family. I worked with Patricia for a short time but remember her fondly. We shared a birthday and we would get a kick out of wishing each other a happy birthday when we saw each other.

Lisa Irving - February 23, 2021

I will miss our fun red hats lunch together with you telling us of your lovely family and as we travelled to Trenton you would show us your childhood homes. Rest in peace my lovely friend. To the family, so sorry for your loss! A truly awesome person has gone uo to heaven. Hugs, Lisa

Port Hope Police Service - February 23, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Brad Halls - February 23, 2021

To the family of Patricia McHenry: I was saddened to learn of the passing of Her Worship JP McHenry. I lived and practised law in Cobourg from 1977 to 2012, and as a result had the pleasure and privilege of coming to know her and to appear before her in the court. I enjoyed knowing her and appearing before her, where I always felt she made her decisions based not only on the established law, but also brought her own attitude of personal fairness, compassion and common sense to her duties, yet without much willingness to suffer fools, - factors that are not always present in our courts, no matter how much we may wish it to be. In more private sessions she was always warm, friendly and welcoming which made the opportunities to be with her good experiences. I trust you all will have a lifetime of warm memories of her which will be of great comfort to you in your loss. Brad Halls Fergus, Ontario (formerly of Cobourg) brad.halls@wightman.ca

Katie Andrews - February 23, 2021

We are so sorry to Patricia's family for their loss. We loved Patricia here at Port Hope Police, and she was a huge supporter of police officers. Patricia was so excited when she sold her house and was moving to her daughter's home. Our love and thoughts go out to you all. Katie Andrews

Mark Moorcroft - February 23, 2021

I knew Justice of the Peace McHenry well in my prior roles as an Assistant Crown Attorney in Cobourg and then as the Crown Attorney for Northumberland County. She was a truly wonderful person. In life you meet lots of people who ask you how things are and how your family is when they meet you, but I always felt like Patricia really meant those things when she spoke to me. She was a fantastic Justice of the Peace. Lenient and kind most of the time, but with a good sense of community values, and she could be tough when she needed to be. When bail court would end and the record would stop recording, Patricia would often engage in conversation with myself and the other court players. She also continued to visit us at the courthouse even after her retirement. I know from our many conversations how much she loved her daughters, and the time that she got to spend with her sisters. She would tell me with glee about day trips with her sisters. She had such a zest for life. My sympathies to the family. I know how good a person that you have lost. God Bless. Justice Mark Moorcroft

Mary Mouse Checkley Ainsworth - February 23, 2021

Anne so sorry for the loss of your beloved sister. I met her playing Euchre in Cobourg. A great discussion about you followed. She was so proud. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

John and Jan Sheewin - February 23, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

Susan Storry - February 23, 2021

A bright warm light has gone out of this world with Patricia's passing. Sincere condolences to Tammy, Kelly and their families. Patricia was always so positive and fun loving. Remember all the good times with her and how much she loved you. One of my best memories was her surprise birthday party when she thought just she Jim and I were going to Swiss Chalet like normal to celebrate our birthdays. Instead approx 40 people surprised her in my basement and all she could say was "but I brought coupons" when I told her dinner was at my house! I miss her but know she is in a better place now.

florence femiak - February 23, 2021

Our deepest sympathy to Tammy and Kelly and Family for the loss of your Mom and my Dearest friend, well loved by many. She brought much joy and laughter to us all, a wonderful person to have worked with over the past years and will be missed very much and we will meet again. Love and fond memories....Florence, David and Brad and families..........

Maureen Hermann - February 23, 2021

Lots of happy memories of Patricia. Always ready for a good time. Patricia had a quick wit and a great sense of humour. She was a very easy person to know and like. She will be missed by many.

Vicky Noel - February 23, 2021

Tammy, Kelly and family. I was so heartbroken to hear of Patricia's passing. She was a wonderful woman and a great friend. She will be truly missed. I wish we had been able to get together with our birthday ladies group but unfortunately we couldn't manage that. She will be missed at our future gatherings. She was so much fun to be around and I will miss her so much. I am sending hugs and condolences to all of you at this difficult time. I thank God for the time we did have together socially and professionally. God bless you all.

Jan Gordon - February 23, 2021 DONATION

A Memorial Donation has been made to the following charity:

Northumberland Humane Society

William Cork - February 23, 2021

Patricia was a fantastic lady with a big heart and compassion, I had the pleasure of working in her court room for many years, she always had time to sit down and have a chat and a good laugh with all of her court staff, she was tough but that heart always found a way to see the good in the people she had in front of her court. Patricia was one special lady who made a difference in people’s lives she will be very sadly missed. RIP Patricia 🙏

Patti Pimblott - February 23, 2021

So sorry for your loss Tammy, Kelly and family. Patricia was always my favourite to work with and a long time smoking buddy. She will be missed.

Debbie Marshman - February 23, 2021

Tammy, Kelly and families, My most heartfelt condolences and sympathy to you all. So very sad and sorry to hear this devastating news. Praying for strength for you gals during this most difficult time. I so respected your mom on so many levels and we sure had a lot of great times together and I will cherish wonderful memories of the fun times we spent together. Big Hugs. xo

Dave Powers - February 23, 2021

I had the honor of working with Patricia for a number of years. She was always happy, always joking around and so full of life. She was so proud of her daughters, she spoke of them often. I remember the many times we would be laughing in her chambers about her being so tired from staying at the slots in Peterborough a wee bit too long the night before. Patricia's kitchen table was always open for a sit down coffee and a chat about anything. She was a wonderful and lovely person. I will miss her!

Monica Walsh Hoy - February 23, 2021

It was my pleasure to have known Patricia through my work at the Cobourg Family Law Information Centre. We always enjoyed chatting about the news of the day, Patricia's beloved family and our shared faith. She was a woman who enlivened the court office and any social gathering with her warmth and interest in people and she was sorely missed when she left Cobourg. We will all treasure our fond memories of Patrica and she will never be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to her daughters who will feel her loss so very keenly. May Patricia rest in peace.

Nancy Thomson - February 23, 2021

My deepest condolences to Tammy, Kelly and family. I had a unique relationship with Patricia (Cathy) when she became my adopted Mom. We had so many laughs, adventures and truly special times. I will miss our joint birthday celebrations, trips to the casino or times just sitting around and having a visit. You are with the angels now....until we meet again. Love you.

Lee-Ann Walker and Jay Selluski - February 23, 2021

Tammy and Kelly Jay and I have heavy hearts today with your mom's passing. Our memories of her and her presence in our lives, especially when we were kids, are very special to us. Our mother always had a special place in her heart for your mom and her stories of their times together filled her with joy. We feel blessed to have known Patricia Ellen. Our thoughts are with you. xoxo

Chief Paul Sweet (Ret) - February 23, 2021

Deepest condolences to the family. Patricia was a credit to our Judicial System and her common sense and compassion touched us all.